Having figured out your need for new friends at a new place and new time it can be very hard for some people to interact with new faces. People are of various kinds and society is stupid. But do you know that making new friends is not so difficult as you think it is.
Obviously, there is no specific algorithm to follow and make friends. But! according to your own needs and wants talking to a specific kind of people can be a piece of cake.
First and foremost step is, to choose the right group. The right person and half of the work is done. Now the new person can be anyone who fits with your personality type. In more specific words, it is the person with whom you should feel comfortable with. Trust, respect, and other things will follow eventually.
Second try to fit in a conversation they are into with some other people. When you smirk at their jokes or make eye contact when they are talking, they automatically add you to their participants in that conversation seeing that you are the 'interested one' too.
The other thing which can be useful is to talk to the person in private. If you are shy, you can talk to them in person. Now, the question arises, how to start a conversation.
There exist several ways to do this. The most convenient way would be, to start with a question. Now the question can be formal or personal or in between. But one must try to avoid personal questions from them which might even offend some people. Also, the question should be a good and obvious one which they even feel to answer. Asking Stupid questions will create a bad impression on them and your first impression will matter a lot.
Third work on your first impression at the beginning of the Conversation. Make it look real as the second person would. If you are nervous about talking to a specific person trust me, they too are as nervous as you also are a new face to them! and moreover, they are humans like you and eventually think like you! thinking about what the other person would think is a good habit but think it all the time and never stepping into is a mistake. You must not be scared of what you said to a new person, they are not Cannibal and will not eat you alive!
Try to take it on yourself, if that person says anything uncomfortable to you, you would think twice that what wrong did you said before? so, never be scared of such thing.
Fourth- Expectations are the worst enemy of your confidence. Expecting that the other person should start all the time is a very huge mistake. Because that person is thinking the same thing. So, it's you who needs to take the first step.
Fifth- Start growing your friendship with them. Even if it's your new group, believe it, a new person is the best one to enter it. Because no one can judge them at first sight. As you grow your friendship you will keep flowing like a stream of water. Personal questions will become common. In every aspect of that, it's you who needs to start.
Having friends is a blessing. Remember, Quality always dominates Quantity and expectations are poisonous.
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